This is it. I'm done. I cannot and will not lug around this extra 50 lbs any more!!! I just stated out loud for people to hear that I am going to lose at least 30 pounds by my 36th birthday. So, I now have 113 days to make this a reality.
I know, I've said this before but this time I'm mad. I am determined. I am not afraid anymore. I want to know what it's like to actually feel good about my weight. Sure, I joke about my weight like when I say things like, "I need to keep up with my womanly figure" or "Being Rubenesque is in". But I am not happy about it. And, dammit, it's time to be happy!
Monday, July 26, 2010
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Lady GaGa and Alien vs. Predator
My daughter is a huge music fan. She is like a mini version of me but with 10x the attitude. She enjoys all types of music and catches on to lyrics of a song in the blink of an eye. I even caught her riding her bike screaming the song "My Life" by Billy Joel. "Go ahead with your own life, leave me alone" were the words being sung up and down Donald Drive. Does she fully grasp the words that she is singing or does she just like the rhythm and beat of the song?
My husband has been fighting me about the choice of songs I let her listen to. Sure, she's got CDs of Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, and all the other Disney TV stars that, of course, have to be musically inclined as well as act. But what about Lady GaGa? Yes, she is quite odd. Yes, she is naked most of the time. Yes, yes, yes to all the million other crazy, indecent, sexually charged things about her. But I will give her a big YES to the fact that she knows how to get you singing and dancing to one of her songs. RaRa ahahah. What the heck is that? I don't know, but I like it! Roma romama. Again, huh? "I want your love and all your lover's revenge"...okay, okay I know what that means but does my 9 year old? Lord, I hope not...so I'm going to go with a resounding NO, she has no clue. So that being said, is it okay to let her listen to this sexually laden song?
Let's go back to around 1979 to a young girl of 4 or 5 dancing and singing to the tune of "Do Ya Think I'm Sexy" by Rod Stewart. Catchy tune, right? How about this: "If you want my body and you think I'm sexy
come on sugar let me know. If you really need me just reach out and touch me come on honey tell me so". Blatantly sexual? Heck yeah! Was I really listening to the words and what they really meant at 5? Heck no, I was just getting my singing and dancing on with my microphone hairbrush in hand. So is this song better or worse than the Lady G?
Let's move just a few years ahead to the 80s to a scene in the car with my Mom. I hear, "Wake up, wake up, wake up, wake up...let's make love tonight." Yep, next station please! Ah, Marvin Gaye, you just put it right out there. Nope, not listening to that one! Even in the 2nd or 3rd grade I knew what that one was about so I did not want to listen to it. I am hoping my daughter will do the same. Let's face it, even though our kids are young and have naive minds they are still sexual beings and are going to know that if you are going to be blatantly saying "let's go do it" they are going to know what "doing it" means. Sorry all you naive ones out there.
That brings me to songs versus videos and movies. A lot of the songs out there are so fraught with sexual innuendo but they do it in a way in which the young minds don't hear it as sexual, they just like the beat, as my daughter says. And I think that's okay. However, when you have a sexually charged song, albeit deep seeded, and pair it up with a sexually charged video we've got a problem. Now, they are making the connection...these words mean sex. So videos are not my favorite at the moment. Whatever happened to the feel good mini-movie like A-ha's "Take On Me"? It was filled with adventure and romance. You didn't see the two leads start doing it when he finally made it out of that black-and-white hell. You just felt happy for them that they found each other and would then be together for the rest of their lives. I still say that is and always will be the best video ever!
Now what about the movies, you say, like Alien vs Predator in your title? Well, I definitely don't let her watch any movies with sex in them but I do have a downfall when it comes to cheesy "horror" films. Here's my take on it: Sex is real and for grown-ups, horror is fake and for anyone who can stand it. I mean, come on, aliens from two different worlds meeting up on earth to fight each other! Ridiculous and would never happen, therefore acceptable for my 9 year old to watch. I knew she was going to be into these type of films when one day at the age of three we were flipping through the channels and she caught a glimpse of an alien thrashing about and she screamed out STOP!! She turns to me and says, "Don't worry, Mommy, it's only a mask". Okay, she's one of those kids, I can accept that.
The one person who cannot accept all these media assaults is my husband. He's the one who constantly screams "when are you going to grow up" but when it comes down to it probably wouldn't let her leave the house until she is 45. He cannot believe I let my baby watch or listen to the things she does. This coming from a man who is covered in tattoos and who once had his nipples pierced! Come on now!!
So, in conclusion,will I continue to let my daughter listen to Lady GaGa or watch scary movies? Yes, but only when the hubby isn't around...sshhh, it'll be our little secret.
My husband has been fighting me about the choice of songs I let her listen to. Sure, she's got CDs of Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, and all the other Disney TV stars that, of course, have to be musically inclined as well as act. But what about Lady GaGa? Yes, she is quite odd. Yes, she is naked most of the time. Yes, yes, yes to all the million other crazy, indecent, sexually charged things about her. But I will give her a big YES to the fact that she knows how to get you singing and dancing to one of her songs. RaRa ahahah. What the heck is that? I don't know, but I like it! Roma romama. Again, huh? "I want your love and all your lover's revenge"...okay, okay I know what that means but does my 9 year old? Lord, I hope not...so I'm going to go with a resounding NO, she has no clue. So that being said, is it okay to let her listen to this sexually laden song?
Let's go back to around 1979 to a young girl of 4 or 5 dancing and singing to the tune of "Do Ya Think I'm Sexy" by Rod Stewart. Catchy tune, right? How about this: "If you want my body and you think I'm sexy
come on sugar let me know. If you really need me just reach out and touch me come on honey tell me so". Blatantly sexual? Heck yeah! Was I really listening to the words and what they really meant at 5? Heck no, I was just getting my singing and dancing on with my microphone hairbrush in hand. So is this song better or worse than the Lady G?
Let's move just a few years ahead to the 80s to a scene in the car with my Mom. I hear, "Wake up, wake up, wake up, wake up...let's make love tonight." Yep, next station please! Ah, Marvin Gaye, you just put it right out there. Nope, not listening to that one! Even in the 2nd or 3rd grade I knew what that one was about so I did not want to listen to it. I am hoping my daughter will do the same. Let's face it, even though our kids are young and have naive minds they are still sexual beings and are going to know that if you are going to be blatantly saying "let's go do it" they are going to know what "doing it" means. Sorry all you naive ones out there.
That brings me to songs versus videos and movies. A lot of the songs out there are so fraught with sexual innuendo but they do it in a way in which the young minds don't hear it as sexual, they just like the beat, as my daughter says. And I think that's okay. However, when you have a sexually charged song, albeit deep seeded, and pair it up with a sexually charged video we've got a problem. Now, they are making the connection...these words mean sex. So videos are not my favorite at the moment. Whatever happened to the feel good mini-movie like A-ha's "Take On Me"? It was filled with adventure and romance. You didn't see the two leads start doing it when he finally made it out of that black-and-white hell. You just felt happy for them that they found each other and would then be together for the rest of their lives. I still say that is and always will be the best video ever!
Now what about the movies, you say, like Alien vs Predator in your title? Well, I definitely don't let her watch any movies with sex in them but I do have a downfall when it comes to cheesy "horror" films. Here's my take on it: Sex is real and for grown-ups, horror is fake and for anyone who can stand it. I mean, come on, aliens from two different worlds meeting up on earth to fight each other! Ridiculous and would never happen, therefore acceptable for my 9 year old to watch. I knew she was going to be into these type of films when one day at the age of three we were flipping through the channels and she caught a glimpse of an alien thrashing about and she screamed out STOP!! She turns to me and says, "Don't worry, Mommy, it's only a mask". Okay, she's one of those kids, I can accept that.
The one person who cannot accept all these media assaults is my husband. He's the one who constantly screams "when are you going to grow up" but when it comes down to it probably wouldn't let her leave the house until she is 45. He cannot believe I let my baby watch or listen to the things she does. This coming from a man who is covered in tattoos and who once had his nipples pierced! Come on now!!
So, in conclusion,will I continue to let my daughter listen to Lady GaGa or watch scary movies? Yes, but only when the hubby isn't around...sshhh, it'll be our little secret.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
My first blog...the beginning of the end?
Well, this is it. I have finally succumb to the old notion, "every one else is doing it, so why can't I"! Note to teenagers: that is not a good saying. But since I am an adult I can do what I want, so there.
So far I am finding this to be a little difficult. What do I want to say to myself, about myself? Do I really think anyone will want to read this. Frankly, I don't care. Or do I? Don't we all want some form of "15 minutes of fame"? Well, for now, I guess I am doing this for my own sanity. Sometimes my family isn't the best sounding board for all my ranting and raving. Not that I will constantly be ranting and raving here. This will not be my way of pouring my angst-ridden soul to anyone who will listen. I am normally an upbeat, quirky kind of gal who laughs out loud at TV shows, sings and dances in the car, and who never ever uses gal in a sentence when actually speaking...weird.
So I guess I should start off by telling you about my life. I am a married woman in my mid-30s who has 2 kids, one biological daughter and one stepdaughter. My husband and I met in a bar where we literally looked at each other from across the room and immediately fell in love. After 12 years we are still in love. Don't get me wrong we have our moments, but they are few and far between. We have really learned to accept each other and have come to the realization that we ARE each other's best friends. We chose to be together and raise a family together and we will do whatever possible to keep that going...till death do us part.
We live in Rhode Island on an island. Aquidneck Island, actually. My husband was born and raised here. He is the youngest of six and therefore the rebel or blacksheep, if you will, of the family. But, feeling like the rebel and blacksheep of my family I don't mind. He's pretty cool to me. Our kids are 9 and 15. Our 9 year old has always felt like a teenager to us so we are used to her talking back to us, refusing to eat, refusing to do her homework, refusing to do anything we ask of her actually. But our 15 year old has just started to act like a typical teenager and we are baffled. She started hanging out with a girl we don't feel too fondly of and with that she has started "experimenting" and just making bad decisions. That's all I will say for now for I feel a need to dedicate an entire page to these goings-on!
I think that what I've got here so far is the step in the right direction. My writing just this little bit feels a tad cathartic right now. So while I'm feeling prety good I think I'll stop for today. Better to leave on an upbeat mood. Hopefully, my next posting will have a bit more structure to it. So, the beginning of the end? I think not, this feels good!
So far I am finding this to be a little difficult. What do I want to say to myself, about myself? Do I really think anyone will want to read this. Frankly, I don't care. Or do I? Don't we all want some form of "15 minutes of fame"? Well, for now, I guess I am doing this for my own sanity. Sometimes my family isn't the best sounding board for all my ranting and raving. Not that I will constantly be ranting and raving here. This will not be my way of pouring my angst-ridden soul to anyone who will listen. I am normally an upbeat, quirky kind of gal who laughs out loud at TV shows, sings and dances in the car, and who never ever uses gal in a sentence when actually speaking...weird.
So I guess I should start off by telling you about my life. I am a married woman in my mid-30s who has 2 kids, one biological daughter and one stepdaughter. My husband and I met in a bar where we literally looked at each other from across the room and immediately fell in love. After 12 years we are still in love. Don't get me wrong we have our moments, but they are few and far between. We have really learned to accept each other and have come to the realization that we ARE each other's best friends. We chose to be together and raise a family together and we will do whatever possible to keep that going...till death do us part.
We live in Rhode Island on an island. Aquidneck Island, actually. My husband was born and raised here. He is the youngest of six and therefore the rebel or blacksheep, if you will, of the family. But, feeling like the rebel and blacksheep of my family I don't mind. He's pretty cool to me. Our kids are 9 and 15. Our 9 year old has always felt like a teenager to us so we are used to her talking back to us, refusing to eat, refusing to do her homework, refusing to do anything we ask of her actually. But our 15 year old has just started to act like a typical teenager and we are baffled. She started hanging out with a girl we don't feel too fondly of and with that she has started "experimenting" and just making bad decisions. That's all I will say for now for I feel a need to dedicate an entire page to these goings-on!
I think that what I've got here so far is the step in the right direction. My writing just this little bit feels a tad cathartic right now. So while I'm feeling prety good I think I'll stop for today. Better to leave on an upbeat mood. Hopefully, my next posting will have a bit more structure to it. So, the beginning of the end? I think not, this feels good!
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